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Jennifer Arnold's avatar

I love just free forming comment on your page - it brings up such memories for me , for some reason . When I was 13 , my grandmother booked a trip first class on the QE2 to London and back , ( New York Port ) and she invited my mother's sister , the privilegdged one , who got her daughter , my age mate included , thinking they could squeeze three in a room . NO , so then another room was procured , and since there would be an extra berth , I was invited one week before departure . Looking back , I see how really confusing and unfair that was , as I was 13 , and needed a captains table dress , clothing for a trip through Scotland etc . But , I panicked , packed , and off I went . The Ship thing is all class , no reality . and by the end of the voyage , not only were my cousin and I dancing with the handsome dressed up to look like Navy guys , but also down in the lowest part of the ship , where the rooms had no portholes and everyone was sitting in the hall playing guitars , the workers . We sat on the deck and were offered bullion or cakes , while the steward wrapped our feet in lap rugs , ( he must have enjoyed that ) and at night , beds turned down and pj s were laid out . What I realized is that when you live on an island , be it NYC , Great Britain , or Kauai , that stratification actually allows people to co exist without conflict , like in an apartment building . Everybody has their thing and they stay in it . Thus , you can have the upstairs downstairs reality , and nobody thinks that they are ants in an ant hill , even though they are ! Commonors take as much pride in their commonality , as the wealthy do . There is a wonderful version of My Fair Lady , Pygmalion , better than the Audry Hepburn one , that was done with Leslie Howard . But this is what I want to say . A Lady is someone who knows her class and keeps it , no matter what is happening . A great lady , brings others into her world , no matter what level they are at , and a queen , is someone who brings the world up to her level , and all the people in it . Right now , we are being put into a blender and turned into mush . "In all fairness " is the root of the British Islander , and of course , looking for that balance is not going to be color coded or genitalia based anymore , since that seems to be everyone's business these days . I think that deep inside everyone has a comfort zone where they feel happiest , and that is something that should be safe to be expressed and should be respected . Let the layers sort themselves out , as they are wont to do .

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Gary Sharpe's avatar

Yes, but then the middle classes force the working class into having the same values, and then when the working classes adopt the "current thing", the middle classes become even more extreme in order to distinguish themselves again, and then force this new norm on to the working class. Thus it is a feedback loop of ever more extreme morality. For example, the newest frontier seems to be the normalizing of pedophilia.

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